"I was just reading your comment in ICU and had to message you. It was exactly this type of thing that caused me eventually to move towards Tim’s philosophy. The reason Tim’s “both, and” speaks to me so much is because of what I always experienced around relationships with others. I could have these deep no self, no doer, pure awareness type experiences where I’d even let go of the one that wants to say “yes I’ve got it” but every time it was like “Russell” had to come back eventually to be able to relate to my family."