"Before we can be intimate with other people, we need to be comfortable being intimate with ourselves."
When I discovered that self-compassion is wiser (and much harder!) than ego abandonment, it was a rude awakening, because I had to let go of spiritual practices that simply taught neutrality towards/ de-realization of "the one who suffers."
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5 Myths about Self-compassion
What self-compassion is not (self-pity, self-indulgence, self-esteem)
Does self-compassion mean letting yourself off the hook?
Is it self-indulgent to be self-compassionate?
What is fierce self-compassion? (self-compassion isn't always tenderness)
Videos
Overcoming objections to self-compassion
5 Myths about Self-compassion
What self-compassion is not (self-pity, self-indulgence, self-esteem)
Does self-compassion mean letting yourself off the hook?
Is it self-indulgent to be self-compassionate?
What is fierce self-compassion? (self-compassion isn't always tenderness)
Videos
Overcoming objections to self-compassion